Toddlers!

[Yo Mama]

I love my kids. So this isn't about that.

What I don't love is that, ever since I put my 23 month old son in the "big boy" bed, when he wakes up in the middle of the night as they all do at that age, instead of going back to sleep, he comes and gets in my bed.

I'll get up and put him back in his bed, and just as I'm falling asleep, he'll get back up and try to get in my bed again.

Some nights he does this once and gives up. For the past week he's gotten up four or more times in a row. His record is six attempts throughout the night.

Needless to say I am very tired.

I suppose I COULD let him sleep in my bed, but that would be setting a bad precedent. He's preferred to sleep alone since he was about six months old. I can't sleep when he's in my bed because he squirms and I'm afraid he'll fall out of it.

Last night was a three-invasion night. The night before was a five.

I'm SO FREAKING TIRED!!!

And now he's sleeping in, which means he won't take a nap after I take his sister to school so I can nap too. It's a busy afternoon, so he'll just have to stay up until bedtime tonight. which means I will too.

While having small children in one's 40's is good from a wisdom and patience standpoint, it's not much good from an energy perspective.

I think this is why they're born so cute. So you don't eat them when they keep you up at night for the first three or four years of their lives.

More coffee, please?

[Boondock]

you're doing the right thing though GN....you can't be letting the little one hop in bed with you cause it will be very hard to break him of it...

my sons mother allowed it to go on and he would go to sleep in her bed with her when he was like 6 years old.....PISSED me off to no end and of course i was allowed no opinion on the matter.

she is such a cunt.....sorry for the harsh word but it is true...

again, you're doing the right thing

[Yo Mama]

I know I am but sometimes doing the right thing doesn't feel very nice, you know?

I'm gonna miss him when his dad gets in compliance with the custody order and he's gone half the time.

On the one hand, his dad can have the joy of dealing with him when he screams at night, but on the other hand, the man doesn't wake up when the kids are crying as I know from living with him, so I'll be stressing about my little man crying for me and having nobody come for him.

[Boondock]

you will be ok GN....the little man will get used to it...you have to try not to worry as hard as i know that is....
think if it this way...at least you get your kids 50% of the time....

my son lives 1.1 miles away from me and i hardly ever get a chance to see him...his mother sounds an awful lot like your ex does as far as the fucking head games that are played....

you're a good mom...anyone who has talked to you for any length of time knows that

[Yo Mama]

Anybody but the court. Sigh.

Thanks, though. Both my kids are great, but my little d00d is so special to me, he's such a sweet little boy, so funny. I'm going to miss him. I've gotten sort of used to his sister being with her dad sometimes, much as I hate it, but it'll be hard to be away from him.

[Boondock]

Anybody but the court. Sigh.

Thanks, though. Both my kids are great, but my little d00d is so special to me, he's such a sweet little boy, so funny. I'm going to miss him. I've gotten sort of used to his sister being with her dad sometimes, much as I hate it, but it'll be hard to be away from him.

shit yeah it is gonna be hard....it's gonna be hard cause you're a good mom and you're gonna miss your little dude....just like it got easier with your daughter, it is going to get easier with the dude too.

how is it working out with the custody GN?

is it 50/50....a week at his house and a week at your house? his house on weekends or what?
what type of deal is going on

[Yo Mama]

It will be week on week off once he's in compliance with the terms of the order. He has to get into therapy that will be monitored by the court for three years at least, and it has to be a therapist from a list drawn up by the custody evaluator that didn't look at my evidence and said we should have 50/50 in the first place. He has to take another parenting class (which won't "take" any more than the first one he took) and he has to replace his carpeting because it's nasty and makes my daughter's butt break out when he lets her sit on it naked.

Since my daughter told me he was laying tile all weekend, I think he's getting close to meeting the terms.

My son will be going for one night at a time, and gradually build up to the same schedule as his sister over a year's time.

I really need some time to myself, and some rest, but he's a crappy parent, and tries to turn my daughter against me with the parental alienation crap, so I dread my little boy going there too.

[Boondock]

does he live in squaler(sp) or what?
a week on week off is going to be hard but at the same time, once you get used to it, it will be ok..like you said...you need some time to yourself...
everyone does....

not to pry and feel free not to answer but do you work?
if not, that week off is going to be awfully nice you know....

you can just chill and focus on you for a bit....

[Yo Mama]

you aren't prying, I'm pretty much an open book.

I'm on SSDI, so I don't work. My kids are my work. And all the court papers I'm always having to deal with. I think we'll be back and forth to court until my son turns 18. Argh.

I wouldn't mind A week off, I just don't want two weeks off a month until the kids grow up.

[Boondock]

you aren't prying, I'm pretty much an open book.

I'm on SSDI, so I don't work. My kids are my work. And all the court papers I'm always having to deal with. I think we'll be back and forth to court until my son turns 18. Argh.

I wouldn't mind A week off, I just don't want two weeks off a month until the kids grow up.

i feel for you..i really do.
your ex sounds like a real fuckface too. that don't help matters any....
just try and make teh best of it you know...

[Yo Mama]

What choice do I have? I just wish I could get control of the education, because he just wants the kids to go to the ghetto school by his house because it's convenient. Got my daughter's private school to withdraw financial aid and throw her out by saying I'd forged his signature (I hadn't).

The nightmare is that if I suggest anything, he'll do the opposite just to be pissy. doesn't matter what is best for the kids, he'll screw them over in a New York minute if it will get to me.

Fuckface about sums it up.

[Boondock]

i really feel bad for ya GN....
what choice do you have? it don't sound like much of one.

it is amazing how devious some people can be eh?

[Yo Mama]

I could deal with the devious if the court would pay attention to it. They just keep giving him the benefit of the doubt, perjury and all.

[Boondock]

can you plant some yayo in his car and call the cops and say you just saw him make a deal or something....do some deviousnes of your own.....get his ass locked up

[Yo Mama]

Nope. He claims it's all medical and he's a caregiver. They don't call my town Oaksterdam for nothing.

His grow was busted in 2006 before he'd managed to move everything to whereever he moved it to, and they let him walk.

[Boondock]

Nope. He claims it's all medical and he's a caregiver. They don't call my town Oaksterdam for nothing.

His grow was busted in 2006 before he'd managed to move everything to whereever he moved it to, and they let him walk.

i'm talking about coke though...the yayo...plant some in his car or something and tip the coppers off and get his ass in jail

[Yo Mama]

If I could get away with that, I might consider it. But I have no key to his truck, and can't set foot in his 'hood without being recognized.

I just have to keep hoping he'll screw himself up somehow. But so far, he's one lucky devil.

[Boondock]

he sounds like one of those fuckers that fall backwards in a pile of shit and come out smelling like a rose...
i wish i could help you out....i feel bad that he makes your life so miserable......

[Yo Mama]

He's definitely that. Vckums can vouch for it.

We're having a struggle right now -- my car won't be available until later today, but I'm supposed to get the kids to him by 3. I let him know and asked if he could pick them up here, and he's refusing saying that if I don't take them to him that I'll be in contempt. He said to walk -- like I'm going to drag a 2 and a 5 year old for two miles through downtown.